So, this is our 30's...
i love her. I imagine being just that way sometimes " I cannot be a tour guide in my own kitchen. . Taking a technology break until the first s I can concentrate on my people ✌🏻 have a good one guys!
Well I'm ending the new year deleting a few numbers after some lame texts and too much wine. Heading on down the road like one man said....onto the next and learn from it.
im debating going into the city and bar hopping with friends, and staying the night,,, but then I'll also have my place to myself for a few days. :). I had an old friend text me today I have t seen him in maybe 7 years? We might of had a lunch 4 years ago randomly for work so maybe I'll catch up with him. His texts take me back to being that young again :) love it. Have a safe and fun New Years all!
im enjoying the late nights with friends. Even thought it's cold as F. #christmasbreak and loving my jam tonight :)
Do you see a lot of passionate elderly people? I guess sometimes. But i see divorce and sometimes I think it's easier to go it alone, date casually, have a kid if you want to. You can do it. You can totally be a single mom and date. You can totally have a career. This has been so engrained in me. Not by just seeing it, but knowing in the end you have you, you might get cheated on, the person may pass away, so you have have to make something for yourself. You have to contribute.
My mom offered me some help on a work thing and I've been trying to be more open to receiving help and not keeping it all inside. I know it's okay to get help and I shouldn't just try alone. Now if I could only DO that. Instead of worrying about how someone else might feel. I also have too much pride. Every job I ever got I got on my own and I worked really hard to do that. I started at 13 and I've been working ever since. Lately though I am trying to accept some help from a few friends and not think of it as a failure.
I really put a lot of my identity in my job, and I want to walk away knowing I helped at least someone. I feel like it makes up for being just unfair to the ex andu not expressing how fast I felt things were going and he just couldn't read that. And I didn't understand it either. He was the safest choice but I never felt more lonely than I did with him. I still can't believe the amount of time I sat in my car just to be alone. But walking away from what would be the safest thing ever, is still the hardest thing I've done. I wasn't in love, a lot of people are and then fall out 10 years later, he'd protect me, never divorce me, put up with my bullshit, he would give me anything and treated me like no one had before. But I just felt sad. Kind of like I'm 31...and this is it. Well buy a house and that will be that. For months I was just in a trance knowing I had to decide and just do it. I did and it as awful and I lost a lot of friends and people I considered family. It hurt and I almost decided to take it back, but I know I wanted more. I still doubt my decision, as I know had my mom done so things might have been easier for her and us. Being a couple would be more normal that dependent. I miss the naive girl who kissed the guy I though was the love of my life knowing I as late for curfew. It I was so care free and I drive home with the biggest smile on my face. That was love :). That feeling.
One thing he was good at was keeping up with my car. Growing up wo a dad makes car issues major issues. 😜jk.
I hope you all have a great new year! I plan on partying the night away with my best people. Stay safe!!!!! HYGL ;) inside joke
ps why are all the old ones coming out of the wood work? I assume it's New Years loneliness. Thank god for block. And that I moved. Legit.
well, tonight's the night. We are supposed to meet for drinks at eight I already am getting a stuffy nose but I'm going to hopefully pull it together by then. Let's hope this one is at least it's not a disaster!
whwn it comes to dating, I've learned to keep it quiet from my family. I hate the constant questions or judgements when I go on one date and not give the guy a second chance. I feel like if I didn't get a good vibe or attraction on that first date why waste my time again? My family would give me a hard time about this, so I basically quit sharing my dating life.
Maybe I'm sensitive because I did give someone another chance once after not really feeling it and I settled for quite awhile.
I guess i treat dating like a numbers game. Go one one, if the vibes not there move onto the next. Then again I'm no pro but I hardly go on a second date if I wasn't feeling the first. Even if I don't have a solid reason.
i haven't been dating in awhile....I'd say over a month....maybe two after the last disasterous date I had. I even deleted Tinder I was so fed up.
I want ant to start the new year off right and I decided I would wait until after Christmas to get back into the game. So I decided to try out Match.com and tinder too. I feel like everyone is on all these apps anyways but match gives you a little more info on who the person is. I'd love to know what apps you guys find the most useful and why? Match was good but it takes more time that tinder and it's not as easy to just chat really quickly back and forth and it was semi overwhelming. Maybe that's what I need though.
I did chat with someone who seems cool, and I agreed to grabbing a quick drink tomorrow night that I'm forcing myself not to cancel.
On another note- even though it shouldn't both me, my ex is dating a selfie queen and I stupidly saw a photo of them on a vacation I always wanted to go on. Totally didn't expect it to sting as it did.
I hope ole everyone had a great Holiday and wish me luck tomorrow!
I'd love feedback on better apps that might be out there.
So....again I hate being misled of told something really surprising on a first date, that should maybe be brought up before that fist date if your dating online. Isn't that one of the perks? Is it just me who feels this way? That any major disclosures would be a plus to get out of the way.
We went to a wine bar and had 2 glasses of wine and some appetizers. He looked just like his photos, etc, and everything was good. We chatted and while I wasn't really feeling him sexually, maybe going on a second date was at least a possibility. He was shorter than he claimed, but I don't really care about height.
Then he tells me that he lives close enough to work, that he bikes there. Okay cool. Then he says "You might have noticed my eyes moving back and forth, I have an eye disorder, and I will be going blind. Then he went on to say he only was planning to live in a busy city like we are in for another year or so, then he plans on getting used to a new kind of normal for the next few years near family. He also told me he made a major decision and left a certain kind of church. Not joking. That' s about all the details I can give on that one. He's been texting and trying to set up a second date, I don't know how I feel about any of the date itself, it left me with a lot on my mind, and again feeling slightly misled, as I had made it clear I was staying in the area and was looking for someone who was planning on the same....Now I just feel like daters guilt...
im finally going on a good date hopefully after the whole whipped it out. He's good looking, lives close, but not too close. I'm forcing myself not to cancel or self sabotage! xoxo
trying so hard to find some mtgijg to wear and get in an excited mood. Date starts at 8pm....I have to get back out therebregardless. Now to pull an out fit together.
Okay I'm just going to go for it. Wish me luck! I found something decent and wearing boots and a jacket.
I've had some extra time on my hands due to my back being a jerk. So I have been continuing to work on a side project/company that I have been working on. I was finally able to get the Business Proposal put together, and I think it is a great idea, and could grow a ton! Now I just need to find the right people for feedback and maybe funding if it is a good idea. Have any of you started your own business? Any feedback you can provide? Any thoughts on KickStarter? More dating stories to follow, although, I haven't been out much I do have more updates!
Is it just me, or are people on these dating apps etc just trying to find someone to settle down with for the holidays? I feel so unavailable during the holidays. Also- neighbor and I had a huuuuuge blowbout over women and equal pay. He's not a fan. Not sure I even want to bother with him anymore. Ugh I need to get back in the dating pool even if I'm I'm not feeling super great. I did take the dog to the dog park tonight and a guy asked for my number. He seemed fine but I kinda got the vibe he has something happening. He had a small little dog and took a phone call dad away from me. Reds not my favorite color I promise. ❌❌❌❌
no matter how I feel about the election, I'm so surprised about how many passionate people we have here and all around the world. It makes me feel really good, we can make change on our own.
I'm a 30 something, living in a busy city in the US. I chose this place to be my outlet for my dating adventures over the next year, while I try and find some version of love. Here I am, in all my horrendous glory.