So, this is our 30's...
So....again I hate being misled of told something really surprising on a first date, that should maybe be brought up before that fist date if your dating online. Isn't that one of the perks? Is it just me who feels this way? That any major disclosures would be a plus to get out of the way.
We went to a wine bar and had 2 glasses of wine and some appetizers. He looked just like his photos, etc, and everything was good. We chatted and while I wasn't really feeling him sexually, maybe going on a second date was at least a possibility. He was shorter than he claimed, but I don't really care about height.
Then he tells me that he lives close enough to work, that he bikes there. Okay cool. Then he says "You might have noticed my eyes moving back and forth, I have an eye disorder, and I will be going blind. Then he went on to say he only was planning to live in a busy city like we are in for another year or so, then he plans on getting used to a new kind of normal for the next few years near family. He also told me he made a major decision and left a certain kind of church. Not joking. That' s about all the details I can give on that one. He's been texting and trying to set up a second date, I don't know how I feel about any of the date itself, it left me with a lot on my mind, and again feeling slightly misled, as I had made it clear I was staying in the area and was looking for someone who was planning on the same....Now I just feel like daters guilt...
im finally going on a good date hopefully after the whole whipped it out. He's good looking, lives close, but not too close. I'm forcing myself not to cancel or self sabotage! xoxo
trying so hard to find some mtgijg to wear and get in an excited mood. Date starts at 8pm....I have to get back out therebregardless. Now to pull an out fit together.
Okay I'm just going to go for it. Wish me luck! I found something decent and wearing boots and a jacket.
I've had some extra time on my hands due to my back being a jerk. So I have been continuing to work on a side project/company that I have been working on. I was finally able to get the Business Proposal put together, and I think it is a great idea, and could grow a ton! Now I just need to find the right people for feedback and maybe funding if it is a good idea. Have any of you started your own business? Any feedback you can provide? Any thoughts on KickStarter? More dating stories to follow, although, I haven't been out much I do have more updates!
Is it just me, or are people on these dating apps etc just trying to find someone to settle down with for the holidays? I feel so unavailable during the holidays. Also- neighbor and I had a huuuuuge blowbout over women and equal pay. He's not a fan. Not sure I even want to bother with him anymore. Ugh I need to get back in the dating pool even if I'm I'm not feeling super great. I did take the dog to the dog park tonight and a guy asked for my number. He seemed fine but I kinda got the vibe he has something happening. He had a small little dog and took a phone call dad away from me. Reds not my favorite color I promise. ❌❌❌❌
no matter how I feel about the election, I'm so surprised about how many passionate people we have here and all around the world. It makes me feel really good, we can make change on our own.
Well the straw finally broke the camels back so to speak. I threw my back out due to some complications, man I am really starting to feel my 30's, and I'm not even that far in yet! I've been to phyical therapy and I have many more sessions to go and an MRI in the works. I was told no stress at all. And a few days of bed rest. I've had some family traveling, and my brother happens to still live at home, despite his age. We've had issues before where he neglects the dogs (even his own), he has drug and alcohol problems. I went over there the other day, when I was finally able to, and there inside the house, was my drugged up brother and his girlfriend in a daze, and no food or water for the dogs. They even had tried to get into the bathroom for water. I cried my eyes out. I had been willing to board the dogs but was told things would be different. I was done. I was done with it all. I fed the dogs, gave them water they were so thirsty, yelled at the girlfriend or my brothers I trusted, and my brother. I walked out of that house, and I decided not to see any of these family member's for 365 days. I would talk and clearly I was not heard. I then saw the dog pee all over my moms new hardwood floors. I asked my now angry brother if he could clean it - I had severely hurt my back and he knew this. He said "No" in his cocky demeaning way. I asked him where the cleaning solution was, and he refused to answer. I got on my hands and knees and cleaned the floor as he stood over me. Watching.
My therapist 2 years ago told me I needed to cease all contact that I was being bullied, but I couldn't imagine leaving my family. It felt so cruel. But he said it will never end and was I supposed to wait for her to die to live my life? To be respected? I left his office in tears and pushed it out of my mind.
This was the finally straw. I let them all know I'd talk to them in 365 and blocked all numbers. I just had to call it quits. I had to let those stressors go and concentrate on me. I asked my sister for photos at least of my nephews periodically via email and she responded with "Thought you wanted 365 days", I calmly told her to do what was right for her. And the best of luck (she lives out of the country).
It was quite a mess, but we're at day 364 and I feel good.
I never had a chance to get any closure, and for me that's been hard to accept. I wanted the break to pull my shit together (wrong on so many levels), he said break meant broken up. 4 months later he's replaced me. It took my back to the cafe we went to when we were first dating, and he said something along the lines of you find a new one right away and replace the last ones. I swear sometimes he does not think before he speaks. A fight insude where I was just a replacement for J, and now thats really all I was. It was just bugging me tonight. Ugh. It wasn't that love I thought we had. Eh, screw Sundays ;) Have a good Monday everyone.
So I am trying to get back out there, and give the dating game another try regardless of the health issues I have been dealing with. I was put on bed rest for a week which was miserable. It sounds fun, and I’m all about rest, but it was not fun.
So I hop on a dating app (everyone single seems to be on them all anyways, so I stick to one), and start chatting with this really cute guy from the Midwest. Great body, sweet personality, likes his family, good job, etc etc. We set up a date and time (I’m on major pain killers at the moment, so I Uber to Starbucks), we have a late night coffee, he had to work late, so we’re taking decaf coffee at 9:30 pm. Within the first few minutes, I knew it wasn't going to be a fit. I just didn't feel the vibe, he came off boring and uninteresting, but I went on until he had finished his second coffee. By now maybe it was around 10:30 pm….so still people around the parking lot, not many, but still. He parked right in front of the glowing Starbucks sign, and I had called my Uber. Then, beyond what I could even believe, this midwestern boy, pulled his pants right down, right there in the parking lot. I’m not even joking, with the glowing Starbucks sign and it being night time, it was the biggest, greenest thing I have ever seen. It beat the cucumber by a LONG SHOT. It was like Hulks penis. I can’t even look at hulk the same anymore.
I was so shocked….I mean, I was just flashed, for the first time ever. All that was really running through my mind was my mom saying to some dateline special “I told her not to do online dating, but she never listens”. I reported him, and that was that. What a great way to get my feet back into the dating pool ;). I have to say, I could not be the first person he has done this to, because he had the process down FAST.
I’m going to call him BM, I just can’t get on board with the term “baby mama” term. He’s been texting, with some of the medical issues and our last interaction with him sitting in the chair etc I really only texted him when I was board. I was in no real shape for dating anyways, And it’ snot like during this time he asked me out on other dates anyways, . I’m not one for texting back and forth and that being it but still, I didn’t stop. Below is our text exchange from the other day:
Well that's that. i feel bad for stringing him along, but really we went out once, and he only came over that other time with ice cream. after this a few days passed and he tried to see me again, but I was feeling terrible, and I don't know if i am the only one out there that prefers not to deal with a new person when your really feeling terrible.
Have a great and safe weekend everyone.!
I'm a 30 something, living in a busy city in the US. I chose this place to be my outlet for my dating adventures over the next year, while I try and find some version of love. Here I am, in all my horrendous glory.